Success Is Simple!

Are you determined to become a mega success story?

Then this article will show you the simplest formula for reaching heights of success you've only dreamed about.

Remember that simplicity is not the same thing as ineffectiveness, for true power lies in simplicity. As the saying goes, "Common sense is not always common practice."

Let's begin.

Psychologist Arnold H. Glasgow has said, "Success is simple: do what's right, the right way, at the right time."

That's a simple concept, yet very profound.

The quote lays out three easy steps to simplify success, but those steps must be integrated to work effectively ' you can't afford to skip even one of them.

The first step is to do what is right. If you skip the FIRST and most important step, you're eliminating your chances to succeed.

But how do you know what is right for you?

Simply put, the decisions you make every day must match with your true purpose in life. Every action you take must enhance and solidify who you are and what you were meant to accomplish in this life.


When you have a purpose, your actions naturally become more powerful because they are focused and united to fulfill a sole objective. Consequently, you achieve faster and better results.

The second step is to do it the right way. If you skip this step, you'll find yourself in a never-ending loop of trial and error where you'll just keep re-inventing the wheel, instead of re-inventing yourself.

It has often been said that the easiest way to become successful is to find someone who is already successful and follow in his footsteps.

Take that advice and learn from the best. Look for successful people who have reached the same level of success you want to reach, and learn from both their mistakes and their accomplishments. Imitate their lives, learn their methods, and discover their secrets.

The third and last simple step to success is to choose the right time. Take small actions every single day that lead you toward fulfilling your purpose. Prepare yourself so that when the right opportunity presents itself, you'll be ready to seize it and ride it to unimaginable levels of success. The right time to start taking action is NOW. Even the smallest action can make a big difference. Don't worry about the magnitude of your every move; focus instead on the collective power of all your small actions combined.

"Success is simple. Do what's right, the right way, at the right time."

Do what is right by discovering your true purpose in life.

Do it the right way by learning from the best.

Do it at the right time by taking small actions and preparing yourself to seize opportunity when it presents itself.

Can success be that simple?

It can be if you start NOW!

Success Is Simple!
by: Mohamed Tohami

People Are Our Greatest Wealth - 10 ways to make the most of your treasure

I believe that the work force of any organization represent their true wealth for without them the organization is going nowhere.

If you are the owner or Managing Director of any organization you will know what the assets of your company are worth. Your Financial Directors and accountants will no doubt provide you with balance sheets of your net worth, those assets which are depreciating and those investments which are growing in value.

What value do you put on your staff?

For many organizations the monthly staffing bill is the major expense of the organization and yet they appear to undervalue the amazing resource they have at their disposal.

The collective intelligence, skills, expertise, energy and enthusiasm of your staff is so much bigger than the sum of the individual parts. Optimising the potential of your staff can lead to a competitive edge and a more settled contented workforce it is well worth the investment in time and money.

Ten ways to ensure you maximise the staffing treasure you have at your disposal:

1) Have a clear strategic vision which is shared by everyone

It is particularly important in times of change or difficulty. Uncertainty and lack of clarity creates huge amounts of stress for the majority of people. Having a shared strategic vision enables all staff to understand what the organisation wants to achieve. It works like a light house in stormy waters.

2) Create effective systems of communication which work at every level within the organization. This is vital as the “Chinese whispers” and “Rumour” style of leadership are ineffective and divisive. Involve staff in creating a system of communication which works for everyone.

3) Ensure your decision making process has integrity

Where people have faith that decisions have been made for the right reasons they are much more likely to accept them willingly. There are still too many managers who opt for the easiest decision rather than the right one or they base their decision on the last person they spoke to.

4) Create a culture where everyone feels their ideas are welcomed and valued

Encouraging everyone to do their best is good business. Giving credit for the contribution that they make is a great way of achieving a culture of contribution.

5) Have high and explicit expectations of yourself and your staff.

These should be set out from the outset and provide the measure of performance. Where people are doing well ensure that this is noticed and that staff are made aware that their efforts are valued. Where people are found wanting they should be given constructive feedback and training if necessary. The “hard conversations” should take place in a professional and supportive way.

6) Encourage your staff to be solution finders rather than problem givers

This has a number of incredibly positive spin offs. You minimise the role of the “victim”, and encourage everyone to take responsibility for their contribution, it shares the work load and encourages a positive approach to the future.

7) Train everyone in good team behaviour
Leaders and managers should model the behaviour they want to encourage. The role of “ego” should be minimised and people encouraged to listen actively and contribute willingly.

8) Create a reward system which encourages collaboration and co-operation rather than competition

Encouraging staff to see each other as competition rather than as a useful resource may have short term benefits but in the end encouraging everyone to engage the customer or client to provide the best possible service will protect your future market and enable you to grow consistently.

9) Look for ways to grow and retain your staff.

The cost of recruiting Middle and Senior Managers is extremely high. Ongoing professional development leading to promotion will act as an incentive to improve performance and facilitate effective delegation and succession planning. Of course there will be times when you need fresh blood into the organization, then your track record for ongoing training and treating your staff well will become a great encouragement for others to join you.


10) Never take “good will” for granted.

Staff will give their time and energy willingly when they feel that their efforts are appreciated and valued. Take them for granted and they quickly become resentful and start to think “Why should I bother?” A simple thank you for a task well done goes a long way but be aware the simply going through the motions of showing appreciation has the potential to do harm to relationships.

People Are Our Greatest Wealth - 10 ways to make the most of your treasure
by: Gina Gardiner

The Value of Thinking and Feeling Positive

Thinking and emotion go hand in hand. A negative mood activates negative thinking and a positive mood activates positive thinking. Does it matter if you are in a negative mood thinking negative thoughts or in a positive mood thinking positive thoughts? Is one better than the other? What is the advantage in thinking and feeling positive?

Emotions Have Evolutionary Value

Negative emotions have evolutionary value. Negative emotions like fear, loss, and aggression activate the flight or fight response. When we experience negative emotions, we have a feeling of aversion, which sets us on course to identify what is wrong and eliminate it. Negative emotions and thinking are associated with a survival alert that activates a reaction to fight, flight or conserve - each reaction with obvious evolutionary value.

Positive emotions also have evolutionary advantage. They "broaden and build." Experiencing positive emotions increases our survival chances because positive emotions broaden our intellectual, physical, and social resources and build reserves for us to draw upon.

Experiencing positive emotions increases our drive for exploration and discovery and provides the basis for positive social interactions. When we experience positive emotions, we become more tolerant, expansive, and creative. The more positive emotion we experience the more open to new ideas and new experiences we become.

Negative emotions narrow our perspective to focus only on the immediate threat. When negative emotions are experienced, we withdraw, freeze, or protect. When we experience positive emotions, we feel safe and engage in active, playful exploration, and discovery. Negative emotions contract and positive emotions expand.

Positive emotions form the experiential foundation for mentally healthy people. Positive emotions provide a foundation for growth and exploration and build the intellectual, social, and physical capital for further growth and development.

When we experience negative emotions, they tell us to deal with what is wrong and eliminate it. When we experience positive emotions, we start looking for the virtues of what is happening. We become constructive, generous, un-defensive, and open to seeing possibilities.

Experiencing positive emotions gives us an entirely different way of thinking from a negative mood. A negative mood makes us attentive to threats in our environment and focuses our thoughts on protection. A positive mood moves us into thoughts about growth and development, exploration and discovery.

Positive Emotions Build Resources and Capital for the Future

Positive emotions build the resources and capital that will become the basis for growth and development in years to come. When we feel and think positive, we reach outward and broaden our resources through exploration and discovery. We are more creative, think quicker, and do not succumb to premature closure or other forms of superficial intellectual processing.

Depressed people experience what is called a "downward spiral" of negative emotions. Depressed emotions call forth negative memories that feed more negative thoughts, that feed more negative memories, that feed more depressed emotions. Breaking this downward spiral is crucial to stopping the depression.

Psychologists have found what they call an upward spiral of positive emotion. Positive emotions produce a different way of thinking and acting. The thinking becomes creative and broad-minded, and the actions become adventurous and exploratory. This increased creativity and exploration results in greater expansion.

Often negative emotions and thinking are taken more seriously because traditionally they have been believed to be the evolutionary backbone of human motivation. It was believed that people are motivated primarily to avoid experiencing negative emotions and that positive motivation was merely superficial.

But positive emotions are just as real, authentic and important as negative emotions and are equally important for development, growth, and success.

Positive Emotions Lead to More Successful Interactions in the World

Experiencing more positive emotion results in more friendships, stronger love, better physical health, and more successful interactions in the world accompanied by a sense of mastery. Growth, positive development, and creative and successful interactions in the world (i.e. mental health) may have their foundations in the experience of positive emotions and thinking.

Happy people view themselves subjectively as more successful in the world. Happy people remember more good events than actually happened and forget more of the bad events that happened Happy people see success as lasting, personal and pervasive and failure as impersonal, temporary and specific. Happy people may lose a bit of realism but this does not lock them into ineffective functioning. Happy people are more likely to switch tactics when involved in a task that appears to be failing. In the normal course of events, happy people rely on their tried and true positive past experiences while less happy people are more skeptical. However, when events are threatening, happy people, more readily than less happy people, switch tactics and adopt a skeptical and analytical frame of mind. Happy people can deal better with adversity.

Happier people are markedly more satisfied with their jobs than less happy people. Happiness inceases productivity and results in higher income. Happiness also makes gainful employment and higher income more likely. Both adults and children who are in a good mood select higher goals, perform better, and persist longer on a variety of tasks.

Happy People Are Healthier

Positive emotions result in better physical health. Positive emotions are predictive of health and longevity and protect people from the wear and tear of aging. Positive emotions strongly predict who lives longer, who dies earlier, and who will become disabled. Happy people are more likely to seek out and make use of health risk information. Happy people have better health habits, lower blood pressure, and stronger immune systems than less happy people. They endure pain better and take more health and safety precautions when threatened. Positive emotions and thinking prolong life and improve health.

Happy People Are More Connected With Others

Very happy people differ markedly from average people and from unhappy people in one principle way - a rich and fulfilling social life and more secure relationships. Happy people have more close and casual friends, are more likely to be married, and are more involved in group activities than unhappy people. Happy people are also more altruistic. When we are in a good mood we are less focused on ourselves, we like others more and we want to be kinder and share our good fortune with others. However, when we are experiencing negative emotions and thinking we become distrustful, turn inward and become defensive about our own needs.

Focusing on Positive Emotions

Positive emotions undo negative emotions and reduce the negative physical and psychological stresses of negative experiences. Negative emotions tell you that you are facing a win-loss encounter and need to take steps to engage with the obstacles. Positive emotions and thinking tell you that you are in a potential win-win situation.

Positive emotions and thinking guide you to be more expansive, tolerant, and creative and maximize the social, intellectual, and physical benefits of the situation. Positive emotions and thoughts provide both the fuel and the raw material for experiencing more growth and development, more exploration and discovery, more mastery and successful interactions in the world. So, yes, there is a great deal of value in feeling good and positive thinking. Go for it!

Turn Out A Better Generation

The hope of our future depends upon our youth. If you’re a parent, grandparent, or teacher and sometimes feel as though you have no influence, remember this quote by William Ross Wallace: “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.”

Recently, I had a terrific experience with one of my daughters. On her own, she volunteered to provide service to a family in need. After completing her commitments to this struggling family, she shared her experience of serving. I was emotional listening to her explain her thoughts and feelings about the events surrounding this opportunity. While watching her eyes and expressions and listening to her tender thoughts and feelings, I noticed how much more advanced and wise my daughter seemed to be than where I was years ago at her same age. I shared the experience with my mother (who I knew would be a proud grandmother). My mother was thrilled, as she said to me, “That’s perfect! Your job is to turn out a better generation.” My mother pointed out that many times parents feel competitive with their children. But really, parents should be thrilled to watch their children out do them. She said, “If every generation put out a better generation, our world would be a better place. What better tribute to a family heritage than to send out a more improved version every few decades?”

How can we influence an improved generation of youth? Here are 10 suggestions for parents, grandparents, and even teachers and loving, influential friends:

1. Trust them! Children are born with inner knowing and are often more in tune with what’s right and best than their parents realize. Often, adults shut this inner knowing down in youth by projecting fear and judgment and pressing upon them rules of social conditioning. Usually, our youth will naturally graduate toward greatness if we trust them and allow them to be authentic, remove our judgments and fears, and let their intuitive nature thrive and guide them.

2. See them! Parents and teachers frequently project their personal issues onto youth. What a parent fears will often play out in the life of a child. This can cause youth to act out in ways that are not natural to them. Consequently, destructive family patterns pass on, even when the behavior isn’t instinctive to the child. When parents see their kids—who they really are—the youth are more apt to show up great. (For more on healing destructive patterns, see "Healing Your Family History" by Rebecca Linder Hintze.)

3. Listen to them! When parents and teachers are self-absorbed, they rarely listen to their youth. Listening is more than hearing what is being said. It is recognizing all that’s being communicated and that includes paying attention to non-verbal cues. Doing this effectively requires a parent to step outside their own perception and see another’s point of view. Children who are heard are more apt to keep the communication lines open—a critical factor in establishing and maintaining a healthy relationship.

4. Validate them! Once a child is heard, if they are validated, they feel more confident and empowered to succeed. Validation is they key to overcoming any relationship block! When we feel validated, we feel loved and supported. This process is absolutely essential to supporting healthy growth and self-esteem.

5. Encourage them! Today, most of the information communicated in our world is negative, or critical. As a society, we seem to miss this essential point—encouragement does far more good than any form of criticism, judgment, or negative influence.

6. Support them! Many youth today feel unsupported--either adults in their world don’t do enough to sustain them, or they do too much, and consequently hinder their potential. Real support comes when the right balance is maintained. Know what your child can handle and still be successful. Then, maintain that balance.

7. Protect them! Healthy boundaries are essential throughout life. Teach youth to stay away from destructive influences that will literally ruin them—and stop them if they head down a destructive path. Adults don’t let two-year-olds play in a busy road for good reason! There are many dangerous influences that threaten the lives of youth and keeping kids away from them is just as important as removing a baby from a busy road.

8. Guide them! Though teenagers think they know it all, good advice is best found from a loving, wise, and caring adult. I remind my teenage clients that their friends may seem smart, but really, they don’t know much. Share your experiences and learning with youth and teach them correct principles that will foster long-term success.

9. Accept them! Remember in first grade when you colored a picture and you thought it looked great? If you saw it now, would it be a Rembrandt? Probably not. Youth will often do their best, and still it won’t be as perfect as you can do now. What’s not perfect is really perfect! We learn by making mistakes and healthy youth make a bunch of them. When I see a toddler throwing a fit, I smile and say, “He’s perfect at being two.” It really is okay when a teenager acts like a teenager and a wiggly boy acts rambunctious.

10. Love them! Living all these tips in relationships sends a loud message—that you love them! Ultimately, that’s all you can do to support anyone—and it’s the best thing you can do. Truly, all things will fail but love!

Your secret to being successful at accomplishing this list lies in your ability to apply these same solutions to yourself. If you struggle living these philosophies internally, you’ll naturally resist applying them in relationships outside yourself.

If you are a person who trusts your judgment, sees your value, listens to your inner knowing, validates your feelings, encourages and supports yourself in healthy ways, has healthy boundaries and protects your environment, receives helpful guidance in a loving way, accepts your weaknesses and strengths, and has self-love--you’ll find that guiding a better generation will come naturally.

As you heal, apply these principles—first, within. Next, use these tips in your relationships with family members, or with those you love and guide.

Turn Out A Better Generation
by: Rebecca Hintze

Your People + Their Energy = Business Success

The moment your employees park into the lot and walk into the office they are already setting the energetic tone for the day. If you were standing in the window, looking out, and watching them file in for the day, how would you tell if they are Anabolic or Catabolic in their gate? How would you spot the employee that is going to close the biggest deal in the company’s history or the employee who is going to cause you to miss your Wall Street earnings? Which one of them is going to be the one who misses a quality control issue that will cause the entire line to go down for 72 hours while you retool?

The truth is that most of us cannot just look out and see this picture unfolding before our eyes. Yes, we can look at the body language and surmise what their energy leadership is, but it would be a guess. So, how would you deal with this common occurrence? Where would you start? Would you say: “… these are daily events in the life of our company and there is little we can do to stop them?” Alternatively, perhaps you have been very proactive and have engaged your employees in many training and other motivational seminars, in order to keep them on track. Statistics have proven that the rates of retention loss are very high once the event ends and are universally the same. So, I will ask again, please give me another way in which you could prevent this from happening more than say, 80% of the time? How does a leader teach, train and instill sustainable leadership in the organization?

Energy Leadership is a skill set that anyone can learn. If you are a C-Level employee, a small business owner, a college freshman or a sales person in the local grocery store. You see we all play off each other in an energetic manner. Like attracts like. When our mindset continues to play out in a negative or Catabolic manner, everything and everyone we encounter that day will also be directly affected by our energy. This person will pull everyone, every job, every meeting, every figure, every outcome, every encounter s/he has that day down to his level if left unchecked.

On the other side of this equation is the person who is upbeat and looking for the positive or Anabolic solution to life that day. What is the difference in the outcome and productivity of this person’s day? This Anabolic employee will lead with a positive force and lift everyone and every outcome around him/her in a productive way. The numbers and growth of the company will reflect what the energy level is with the employees who work there.

Which one of these two employees do you want to be pulling into the parking lot?

What is Energy Leadership and how is it measured? Energy Leadership is all about physics. You do not have to have a PhD to understand this concept. What you do need to have is an open mind that is willing to connect the dots and to let the scales fall from the eyes to see how this is playing out all around us.

Each one of us radiates energy. Do you remember those “stress dot” cards of the 80’s? These were plastic credit card size cards that you would hold in your hand with your thumb over a spot or you put a little colored dot on the back of you hand and leave it there for a minute. On the card was a sequence of dots which changed color based on your temperature, or if the dot is on your hand, the dot changed colors. It was a visual queue as to what was going on inside your body. What it measured was “warmth”. If a person is stressed; the blood is redirected to protect the organs and goes to the core of our body to keep them warm, and thus the extremities are cool showing up as a “black dot”. On the other hand, if the person were calm the thumb would be warm with blood flow indicated in a “blue dot”.

Energy is like this example above. It flows through us and everything we do that day is impacted depending on what level of Catabolic or Anabolic energy we are resonating at.

Executives as well as those whom they direct all are leaders. Each of these individuals indeed does lead daily either by “default” or by “with purpose”. Choice is an interesting topic in that we are always choosing every minute of every day. Think about how many choices you have made up to this moment. You have made thousands and thousands of choices. My guess is that you make almost 80% of them without much thought at all. You just do what you have always done. This is an example of “default” choice.

When we think about what we are about to make a decision about that is using a choice based on “purpose”. What do I want to happen with this choice? Who will be impacted with my choice? This is a different perspective in our thinking. This is also using effective leadership skills in the workplace.

When we choose to remain in a negative or Catabolic state the result is a bitter, resentful person that people avoid at all costs. On the other hand, a person who is upbeat and is always looking for the benefit, the win-win will always have success following them with others who are rising to the top in whatever area that this Anabolic person interacts with them.

Energy Leadership is the process that develops a personally effective style of leadership that positively influences and changes not only yourself, but also those with whom you work and interact, as well as your organization as whole.

Look out your window. What do you see? What do you want to see? What are the results that you want for your organization? How will you lead your organization today?

Five Keys to Great Questions

Toby was a young and ambitious salesperson. Part of his training had been to spend time with Janice, a veteran and very successful salesperson at the firm. As Toby went on sales calls with Janice he took notes, and one of the things he marveled at was Janice’s ability to ask great questions. In fact he had been collecting and recording her questions and had begun using the same questions himself.

Toby was disappointed though, as it seemed that the questions that worked so well for Janice didn’t seem to have the same result for him. He was pretty confident his timing was right – he wasn’t asking a particular question at an inappropriate time ... so he was confused.

He continued to try and practice for several weeks. Then at the annual sales conference, he decided to see if he could get some additional coaching from Janice. He asked her to have breakfast with him on the second morning the conference. Janice was pleased and quickly said yes; she appreciated Toby and thought he had a very bright future.


After they had placed their orders, Toby described his dilemma; he wanted to know Janice’s secret for asking questions so successfully. He explained that he felt it wasn’t the words themselves – in fact he proved it by showing her over two pages of handwritten questions he had heard her use successfully.

Janice listed intently and smiled. When Toby was finished, she, not surprisingly, asked a couple of clarifying questions to make sure she understood his situation. Toby smiled as he noticed her naturally using great questions yet again.

After their food had arrived, Janice sat quietly eating for a couple of minutes, clearly pondering Toby’s queries. As she finished her toast, she said, “I think there are five things that make for great questions beyond the words themselves, Toby. I’ve certainly thought about each of these things in the past, but perhaps never as a cohesive set. That’s why I took a couple of minutes to collect my thoughts.”

Toby smiled to assure her that he didn’t mind. Then he slid his plate away so he could take notes.

When Toby returned to his room after the full day of Conference activities, he reviewed his notes on Janice’s five keys. Here is his summary of those ideas.

Before You Ask The Question

Toby compiled these ideas as an acrostic so he wouldn’t forget – remember to put your questions on ICE . . .

I ntent – The intent of your question is as important as anything. This intent will guide the overall success with your question. In fact, if your intent is genuine, pure and sincere, it will allow even the clumsiest question to be successful. Regardless of the situation, consider why you are asking a particular question. If the question is meant to gain knowledge, help the other person, allow them to express themselves or in some other way be a step in serving them, your question will be more powerful.

C uriosity – When we are genuinely curious about the answer to our question we will ask better questions. Sometimes people ask a question in a perfunctory way, or they ask even though they already assume they know the answer. When we ask our questions from genuine curiosity, they will be more successful and effective.

E xpectancy – Ask questions expecting to get an answer, and expecting to get a valuable answer! When we ask our questions with a positive expectancy, we will ask much better questions.

After The Question is Asked

Toby realized that the other two ideas on his list come after the question has been asked. Janice’s advice for this critical time was:

Care About the Answer – While it may seem obvious, in reflecting on this point, he realized that when you have the ICE components before your question, you are in a much better position to truly care about the answer you receive. Janice reminded him that the question itself is only a vehicle to get to the answer – and so truly caring about the answer is a huge key to successful questions.

Listen – The last item on Toby’s list was something he knew Janice did well. Janice truly listened to the responses to her questions. Of course Toby knew that listening was important – everyone does, right – but as he reviewed the other four keys he realized that they all led up to and supported successful listening.

As Toby reviewed some of his recent sales calls he realized that his intense focus on asking the right question had diverted him from these five ideas and that these considerations before and after the question itself would be the key to greater success.

These keys aren’t just for Toby – but for everyone, in any interaction where you ask questions. Use these keys and you will unlock even greater power in your questions.


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Potential Pointer: Great questions are about more than the questions themselves. Your purpose for asking and your willingness to listen carefully are as important to the value of the question as the words themselves.

Five Keys to Great Questions
by: Kevin Eikenberry

How to Communicate Better in 3 Simple Steps

Do you ever leave conversations at work wondering why you bothered opening your mouth? Do you sometimes wonder how many times you have to tell somebody something in order for them to get it right? Do you feel that just don’t listen? If so, then perhaps you need to know how to communicate better.

Communication failure is one of the biggest problems faced by businesses today, especially by their managers whose job it is to solve these communication problems; if you learn how to communicate better you can prevent these communication difficulties happening at all.

You know you are heading for communication problems when it appears that the other person has stopped listening to you even before you have finished talking. You get the hint when you can’t attract everyones attention when you speak at meetings or when you are not getting anything back from the other person with whom you are attempting to have a conversation.

You can’t blame other people for this and you can’t change the way that people listen to you; you need to improve your own communication skills.

1. Pause for thought

People are only capable of listening for so long. That attention span becomes shorter if they disagree with you or become confused, so when you see your audience’s eyes glazing over, you know it’s time to stop talking. Hopefully you will have stopped before that point. If you really want to communicate better, you have to listen too. Find out what other people are thinking; not only is that the polite thing to do but it also enables you to find out what people do not understand or what the resistances are to what you are saying.

2. Keep to the point

State your points clearly and simply with no mistakes in order to be easily understood. Signal what you are going to talk about from your very first sentence by stating your aim right away. Then the rest of your talk should be the way you expand upon it and illustrate your point of view. You can ask for feedback later or allow brainstorming of ideas if you wish, but make your point clearly first to avoid confusion. At the end, you should summarize any decisions that are made and make each person’s responsibilities for action clear. Make sure each person that needs to do something after the communication has a SMART target.

3. Watch your tone

You should speak to others as you wish them to speak to you, without arrogance, hostility or sarcasm. Make sure you speak loud enough to be heard but not so loud that your tone appears aggressive. Speak with authority, having thought out your words; you will be much more credible to your audience. If you have a strong regional accent you should try to soften that and make your dialect and accent more standard, to avoid confusing your audience who may not be from the same region.

You don’t have to neutralize your accent completely as an accent can be very endearing, but you need to make sure the way you speak is standardized enough to be understood by others.

You need to learn how to communicate better because communicating well is the best way to ensure that you are listened to and understood by others.

The Secret Master Keys And The Law Of Attraction - Keys To Conscious Co-Creation

In 1933, for all intent and purposes, The Master Keys disappeared from public light, a decision was made within the hierarchy of 'the church' stating "The Master Keys will never be revealed to the public"... I'm sure the vatican was heated by many a book relegated to the furnace... "it is easier to control the poor, than control the happily wealthy"... I'm also sure a few were kept in 'The Archives' for their own use to accumulate the huge sums of money, art, sculpture, manuscripts, real estate etc they have.

Well, you can't keep something like this hidden for ever, and in the first part of the 1990s, when the Silicone Valley millionaires and billionaires were being made, it is well known they all read the text and went on to create the biggest stockmarket boom in history. Bill Gates is said to have come across a copy a couple of years into his Harvard University studies and soon after dropped-out... to create for us all the means to access information at our finger-tips... "putting a computer in every home" may seem a lofty goal, fraught with obstacles and difficulties, but that certainly didn't stop him from achieving it, and becoming one of the richest men on the planet to boot...

It is our birth-right to live in abundance. Charles Haanel knew this, and many others before his time and since have known it... now it's our time to experience The Secret Master Keys and allow ourselves to achieve all that we desire... Health, Wealth, Happiness and Abundance in all things... to live a life of joy.

Let me give you a glimpse of the wonderful gems Charles Haanel has given us... from Key One of the course... Paragraphs 2, 3, 6, 7 & 31;

"Mind is creative, and conditions, environment and all experiences in life are the result of our habitual or predominant mental attitude".

"The attitude of mind necessarily depends upon what we think. Therefore, the secret of all power, all achievement and all possession depends upon our mode of thought".

"There is a world within - a world of thought and feeling and power; of light and life and beauty and, although invisible, its forces are mighty".

"The world within is governed by mind. When we discover this world we shall find the solution for every problem, the cause for every effect; and since the world within is subject to our control, all laws of power and possession are also within our control".

"Every thought therefore is a cause and every condition an effect; for this reason it is absolutely essential that you control your thoughts so as to bring forth only desirable conditions".

He certainly pulls no punches, he explains through the logical male side, and the creative feminine side of our brain, how our mind really works, and restores our thinking to higher-thought. In the recently released movie 'The Secret' ( http://www.thesecret.tv/ where the book in its original form can be read) the Quantum Physicist, Dr Fred Alan Wolf, says "You can't have a Universe without mind entering into it... the mind is actually shaping the very thing that is being perceived..." We literally create all that we are, all we have, all we receive, and all we experience... everything, totally through our thoughts and feelings, whether we believe it or not, or are conscious of it or not... 100% of the time without exception.

There is no capricious outside force arbitrarily dealing out what we get in life, WE are that force, WE are creating our lives. We can create a life of stress with all those things we don't want, or we can create a life of wonder where all that comes to us is positive, abundant, joyful and loving... it's our choice.

Once this concept is fully grasped and accepted, IT IS LIFE-CHANGING. The Master Keys are a set of systematic steps or Keys, that transform our lives into the meaningful and joy-filled experiences they were meant to be. "There is no virtue in poverty, no benefit in self denial" what could we possibly gain from either... absolutely nothing whatsoever. We were born to have a full and abundant, successful, healthy and happy life. As Wallace Wattle says in his gem of a book, The Science Of Getting Rich, "No-one ought to be satisfied with a little, if they are capable of using and enjoying more... to be content with less is sinful..."

The wonderful thing is, we can change everything in an instant with a change of attitude... Gratitude for the things we have now is a great way to generate the feelings which will allow us to leave the competitive mind, enter the creative mind, and start to create the things we want in our lives.

The movie The Secret is a fantastic start to allowing this "power within" to come out... it shows you what this Secret is... The Secret Master Keys shows you how to re-train your mind to create what you desire, by applying a very systematic, step-by-step method and then... the world is yours to do as you wish.

Take care what you think and wish for... you may just receive it sooner than you expect.

The Secret Master Keys And The Law Of Attraction - Keys To Conscious Co-Creation
by: Stephen H Lockie

Dealing with Anger Management

Dealing with Anger Management

We all experienced those moments in which we feel completely out of control with frustrations. Perhaps you’ve thrown something across the room, screamed at someone uncontrollably or put your fist through a wall. Having this kind of experienced, most people react rationality out of their emotion. Unfortunately, the majority of people will lash out without thinking and then realize what they should have done after the fact and the damage isn’t exactly easy to take back. Through this, without even realizing that we hurt the feelings of others during those stressful moments and perhaps even cause some damage to ourselves or our property.

An emotional state that may range in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Anger has physical effects including raising the heart rate and blood pressure and the levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. It inspires powerful and often aggressive feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and defend ourselves when we are attacked. hen anger gets out of control and turns destructive it can lead to problems at work, in personal relationships, and affect the overall quality of life. People with anger management issues get angry more easily and more intensely than the average person, and the notion that “letting it all out” helps is false, because it actually escalates anger and aggression, which doesn’t resolve anything.

The term, “anger management”, commonly refers to therapeutic techniques and exercises practiced by someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger to control or reduce triggers. The goal of anger management is learning how to control anger before it controls the individual, both emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes according to the American Psychological Association and various reliable online resources. The most common techniques recommended immediately before escalation of emotions is to stop talking, stop staring, and leave the room. Learning relaxation techniques like deep breathing and meditation will also help, in addition to stress management skills, learning empathy and forgiveness, and becoming optimistic instead of pessimistic. Chronic mismanagement of anger can lead to serious physical and mental disorders, and if the individual is not proactive, whether by voluntary or involuntary means, the outcome could be disastrous.

We need to understand anger management. Even though, some people don't need to go to the anger management classes that your communities offer, but others may have that need. There are people who can control their anger and deal with it in healthy ways. They have somehow learned that their emotions can be controlled and that they need to react only after they have thought the situation through. They still have the same physical reactions that are natural to every human being – the quickened heartbeats, raise in blood pressure and the levels of adrenaline. That’s what your body does instinctively when you get angry. The important concept of anger management is the physical reaction that your body doing.

Of course, our bodies and minds react in an aggressive manner. We want to whip out and defend ourselves. Even the meekest of individuals will experience that feeling. In fact, isn't bad thing to react in that manner in that some kind of situation. But, most scenarios don’t need such a harsh outburst. We all know that we can’t get rid of the people who annoy us or the scenarios in this world that will test our patience beyond its limits, but we can change how we react.

If you are attending classes, or reading books and listening to lectures, this can be helpful and life altering that can convey to you. You’ll learn relaxation techniques and how to calm yourself down in certain situations. And also you will learn ion techniques and how to calm yourself down in certain situations. You’ll learn how the language and words that you use in aggravating scenarios can be unwise choices and incredibly harmful. Once you can learn some relaxation or calming techniques, you’ll be better able to solve problems much more rationally than you may have previously. You may also find that you’re learning to communicate with others as well. Suddenly, learning some of these anger management solutions in which you can convey your anger in healthy ways will have you seeing the world a bit differently.

If you find that you struggle with anger management, admitting that you may need to find some healthier ways of dealing with life and its stresses could be a great way to start to enjoy your life more. In fact, every single person could benefit greatly from learning some forms of anger management. You just may be surprised at the person you turn into.

Limits are placed on how far anger can take an individual, by laws, social norms, and hopefully common sense. People just can’t physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys them; they need to focus on something positive instead of losing control and dramatizing every life event. Fortunately for these people, there are many reliable self-help resources available online for people with anger issues, including online anger management counseling and education.

Dealing with Anger Management
by: Crizza Reyes

The Secrets of Real Happiness

As mentioned in my previous post What Is Real Happiness, there are paradoxes surrounding wealth and happiness, which drive everyone to its pursuit. The reality is, there are sufficient evidences to show a significant disconnect between wealth and well-being.

Based on the research findings, you will know that happiness can be elusive and yet attainable.

The following are suggestions on how you can increase your happiness:

Realize That Wealth Does Not Create Permanent Happiness. People adapt to changing circumstances—even to wealth or a disability. Thus wealth is like health: Its utter absence breeds misery, but having it (or any circumstance we long for) doesn't guarantee happiness.

- "The mind of every man, in a longer or shorter time, returns to its natural and usual state of tranquillity. In prosperity, after a certain time, it falls back to that state; in adversity, after a certain time, it rises up to it."

- Adam Smith, The Theory of Moral Sentiments, 1759


Be Your Own Time Master. Happy people are master of time management, and hence often feel in control of their lives. It helps to set goals and break them into daily aims. Although we often overestimate how much we will accomplish in any given day (leaving us frustrated), we generally underestimate how much we can accomplish in a year, given just a little progress every day.

Be Happy, Even Deliberately. We can deliberately put ourselves into a frame of mind by starting it with physical action. When you feel moody, look at the mirror and put on a bright smile to yourself. It ignites the energy of joyful emotion, which makes you feel better and trigger subsequent positive moods. When you meet people outside, your energy can be felt by people and brings forth mutually contagious effect. So put on a happy face. Talk like someone with high self-esteem, optimistic, and outgoing. Once you go through the motions, it can trigger the emotions. As Mary Kay said: “Fake it until you make it”

Align Work with Passion. As mentioned in my previous post Experiencing Flow State, happy people often are in a psychological state called “in the zone” called "in the flow" – when one is completely absorbed in a task that challenges them yet without overwhelming them. Most of the expensive forms of leisure (such as sitting on a yacht) provide less flow experience than gardening, playing musical instruments, painting, keeping fish, socializing, or craftwork.

Be Physically Active. It has become a known fact the exercise not only promotes health and energy, it is also an antidote for mild depression and anxiety. Go for gym, jogging, swimming, yoga, aerobics, Pilates, and anything that works your body and gets you perspiring. Sound minds reside in sound bodies. Read my post “Why I Wake Up At 6 am Every Morning” on my experiences benefiting from daily morning run.

Have Enough Rest. Happy people live active vigorous lives yet reserve time for renewing sleep and solitude. Many people suffer from sleep deficiency, with resulting fatigue, diminished alertness, and gloomy moods. If insomnia is the cause, try to restore balance in life, exercise regularly, have proper diet, get a massage, practice yoga and meditation.

Give Priority to Close Relationships. Intimate friendships with those who care deeply about you can help you weather difficult times. Confiding is good for soul and body. Resolve to nurture your closest relationships: to not take those closest to you for granted, to display to them the sort of kindness that you display to others, to affirm them, to play together and share together.

Focus Beyond Self. Reach out to those in need. Happiness increases helpfulness (those who feel good do good). As true as the saying “what goes around comes around”, doing good also makes one feel good. Being opened to the needs of surrounding people also help you avoid dwelling in your own misery.

Be Grateful. People who keep a gratitude journal—who pause each day to reflect on some positive aspect of their lives (their health, friends, family, freedom, education, senses, natural surroundings, and so on.) experience heightened well-being.

- "I cried because I had no shoes," states a Persian saying, "until I met a man who had no feet."

Learn Not To Compare. Most of the misery of people comes from comparing with others who are better or have more. This is the definite source of discontent and a perpetual sense of lack. It may continue to drive you to achieve more, but for the wrong reasons. It is like the rat on the treadmill, constantly chasing its tail until exhaustion. It puts a person on over-drive without any sense of fulfillment. If there is any happiness from achieving, it is often fleeting. When you stop comparing with others, you get started on the path of freedom.

- "Our poverty became a reality. Not because of our having less, but by our neighbors having more."
- Will Campbell, Brother to a Dragonfly, 1977

Nurture Your Spiritual Self. For many people, faith provides a support community, a reason to focus beyond self, and a sense of purpose and hope. Study after study finds that actively religious people are happier and that they cope better with crises.

May you live a life of pure and permanent happiness!

The Secrets of Real Happiness
by: Jordan Cheng